I know I am doing something important by being here cleaning up her messes. I know that wiping her runny nose is making a difference, even if for now that difference is only that it's cleaner afterwards. I want to be the one who puts her to bed at night. I want to be the one (well one of the ones, Brad included here!) who first sees her in the morning. I love that. I don't want to miss a moment. I want to be right here with her. I'm happy here. I know its important.
No.
I choose to stay home with my daughter. Period.
My choice.
Besides, I would miss this if I was working.
No.
I choose to stay home with my daughter. Period.
My choice.
Besides, I would miss this if I was working.
Breakfast time bliss!
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Kim- In my opinion, it is the best choice! I cannot imagine leaving my son with someone else to experience his "firsts". I babysit an almost 3 month old little girl to help offset some of our expenses and believe me, it is not the easiest job, but I am so grateful that I have chosen not to work outside of our home! I know that because of my decision, the Lord is providing for us and even though at times it may be rough, we have sufficient for our needs and that is really all I care about. I'm sure Amelia is so grateful to have you to look up to as well :)
Well said, well said.
Hi, Kim. I have that discussion a lot too. Curtis' MBA program has a lot of other young families like ours and many of the moms are temporarily at home while their husbands are in school. For some it's because we're in a small NH town with not a lot of professional job opportunities, and for others it's because they're from other countries and can't work in the US. Anyway, it's interesting to hear them talk about getting back to work and how hard and unfulfilling it is to be at home. I've had a few moments where other women's attitudes about homemakers made me feel embarrassed about my choice to be home with my children instead of building a career. Even other members of The Church do not always want to stay at home with their children. That really confused me.
However, I quickly determined that I'm not ashamed of my choice and I am not embarrassed to tell people I'm a homemaker. I agree that I wouldn't miss this time with my girls for anything--even though it's hard sometimes and I often feel frustrated because raising children is hard.
So, although people all around us try to make us feel like we're missing out on a fantastic and rewarding career, we don't have to buy into it. There is a time for everything, and I know one day my children will be grown and I will think back on these simple days with so much happiness.
I have the best sisters in the world! All of you are such good examples, and I'm so glad that my brothers found such good, upstanding women!
Not that I have children, but I have never wanted to have a career. And even being single and not having children, it's very difficult to stand up for the fact that I just want to be an educated MOTHER. (I used to feel ridiculous saying that, but I've learned it's nothing to be ashamed of, and I stand up for it now). I'm not in school because I want to spend the rest of my life analyzing satellite images (though, if I really had to, I guess I'd be okay with that) but I'm here so that I am an educated woman and that when I have children, I can teach them and make them better, more well-rounded individuals. But it is hard in our world today to stand up for that, even here at BYU, where you would think most girls just want to stay at home when they have kids. It's quite on the contrary from what I have seen. I think the majority actually want to have a career and let their kids go to day care, and miss out on those few, precious moments. So I'm right there with you, standing up for what I believe is important - being a wife and mother. (I'll get off my soap box now.)
Good for you babe! Growing up with a working mom, because she had to, was hard. Two incomes were great! And then Jaxen came along. What a sweet boy. I don't want to miss anything either.
My grandma who I didn't know well personally told me once: "You don't need things. Stay home with your children. Mothers should be in the home." That hit me hard because I had thought that idea was a "mormon" thing. She is Catholic. It inspires me to this day. I wish she wasn't suffering from Alzheimer's so I could get to know her better.
I've always admired your will to choose the right no matter what. You're great!
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